Cougar Town ......

Wow it's been an interesting time. The saying "Careful what you wish for..." is very very true.

I had a date with the guy I went to varsity with. We went to the Throbbing Strawberry - they make good pizza and cocktails. The Throbbing Strawberry. I know. I really can't make this stuff up. I feel like I've entered a comedy.
Well, it was awesome. We caught up after all these years, we chatted about the past, about what's been happening and it was like I had seen him yesterday. He really is a phenomenal guy and actually one of the last few good guys around.
Problem: *why does everything have to be so complicated?* .... While he is a really good guy, we get on like a house on fire, laugh, joke around... He's just a friend. I really can't see past that. Such a pity, in a way, but better. I do not want to string him along at all.

I was then supposed to see the hottie but I never heard from him. Just as I was about to strike him out, he called me to make plans. So... I'm kind of excited, but the big question mark is... Is this a date? Or a catch up?
My very good friend, Twin, happens to be one of his best mates. We had such a laugh...
Twin: If he takes you to the Brazen Head or any other pub, it's a catch up. If he takes you else where, it's a date.
Right...so with that knowledge in hand...I was interested to see what the suggestion would be.
When he called to make plans, he asked me where I'd like to go... I then said: "I don't mind, where would you like to go?"
Gosh. That is such a typical girly thing, isn't it?
Lame.
So, he said there are so many great places to go to and he'll think about it and let me know closer to the time.
Sounds promising, right? Unless of course, he's talking about there being so many great pubs to go to. Time will tell.

Bachelor #3 (the one that I met at a braai) ... I don't really feel a connection with and rather than string him along, I'd rather just not entertain it. There have been mixed reviews amongst my girlfriends ... who, by the way... are living vicariously through me. My friends are married or in serious relationships heading towards the chapel, that I am really one of the last few single mates. I think they are secretly/not so secretly LOVING my apparently exciting single life.
Anyway, the mixed reviews are that I should go on the date because "you just never know" and then some agree with me, saying that they know this guy really likes me and if I don't feel anything, why entertain it?

So yes... this is an interesting time. I'm having fun.

Speaking of ... I entered Cougar Town over this past weekend ... ahem... I made out with a guy 6 years my junior.
Good grief.
*BLUSH*

This isn't really anything I've ever done before. I am seriously the girl who is a relationship type of girl... I've never done the flings, never had a one night stand and certainly do not hook up with guys at clubs.
I guess, I've done things the other way around. While everyone in their teens and early twenties were doing that, I was in the serious relationship.
So yes ... This is all lots of fun and the best part of going through what I have, is that I now know EXACTLY what I want and what I don't want. I'm not going to settle. Simple.

Happy Friday everyone!
Tomorrow is a Christmas Party with all my mates. We're each bringing a dish and a secret santa gift. My friends and I tend to go all out on things, so I am super excited!

Age is just a number, right? RIGHT?

I am not a judgemental person. If you're a regular, you'll know I always put myself in other peoples shoes...I'm stumped though. I actually can't do it this time.

We have these family friends we've known for years! There eldest daughter is a year older than I am and their youngest daughter (let's call her X because I am that original) is the same age as my sister (21 turning 22). In fact, we all go way back to primary school.

Well, at my sisters graduation on Tuesday, we all bumped into each other, which was so lovely considering we haven't seen them in a while. I noticed her parents and one of her dad's friends.
Something seemed amiss though. They all seemed to be awkward around each other. X seemed to be distant from her parents.
I didn't think too hard about it. We had the lovely ceremony and then there were refreshments afterwards.
Again, it struck me as odd that X didn't come up to her parents afterwards and be congratulated or be in the photographs etc etc...

The next minute X disappears. Mrs. X comes up to my mom and I and she looked all weepy. She whispered to us: "Do you see that guy standing over there?"
She pointed at Mr. X's friend standing talking to X.
"Well," she continued. "They're dating. They have been for 4 months and our lives have been turned upside down."
Well my mom and I do not get the award for TACT, but our reactions were certainly HONEST!
I mean holy shit! Here is a 53 year old guy dating a 21 year old.
To make things even worse, this guy is a friend of the fathers...he has been a family friend since X was born and practically watched her grow up.
Oh and if that still isn't bad? His 21 year old daughter is best friends with X! Although I can't imagine they would be anymore.

I'm sorry to be judgemental but COME ON!! What the hell is this 53 year olds intentions with a 21 year old...a 21 year old you have family history with.
Something is wrong.

Her parents are besides themselves and the problem is they've sat down with the guy plenty of times trying to talk to him and the more they talk to X, the more she gravitates towards this creepy old dude.

My mom and I felt like total shit because of the way we reacted while this poor woman (normally very strong) broke down.

I haven't stopped thinking about it.