I'm PHAT!

I had one of the best weekends. I'd like to say that I partied it up VIP style until I pissed champagne, but instead I didn't move. Ok wait, I did but only for three reasons.
1. To go to the loo.

2. To go to the fridge.

3. To collect deliveries of health food.

I was exhausted on Friday - well, you read below so I got home and chilled. I watched TV and finally dragged myself to bed. On Saturday morning, I showered and instead of getting dressed, I got back into my pajamas. I can't remember the last time I did that!
I didn't get out of my pajama's until Sunday evening, when I showered and then put a new pair on. Lovely. I literally sat on the couch, alternating between writing on my laptop and watching the idiot box I lovingly call the TV.
Honestly, it was just the best. No make-up, no hair products and pure laziness. God it felt good.

I received an email from a pseudonym [of course] and it hit a nerve. It really, really did. I probably shouldn't be sharing this (considering that some of you know who I am) but I have had it and my blog is my place to vent. I just need to get this out!

The email basically says (in a nutshell - because it's a few paragraphs) that they can't understand how I'm in the industry I'm in when I am not "fat" but chubby. I'm not a good role model to women who want to get into this industry and blah blah blah blah.
{It did go on to say that they love my work and that they think I'm a natural talent etc...
Um...Thank you for the backhanded compliment then .}

I am fucking hurt. I should just shrug it off, have a good laugh (maybe a little cry) and then go about my merry way.

Let me set the record straight.

I have been diagnosed with sugar intolerance. I am border line diabetic and am doing my best to not become diabetic. Basically my body doesn't know what to do with sugar and instead of turning it into energy, it turns it into fat. I am left feeling lethargic and I'm left gaining weight.
I am not obese. I am just not your skinny size 0 and quite frankly I would never want to be.

Yes. I am in an industry that is image conscience. Um...I've been in it for a few years now so that would make me well aware. I am in this industry because I love entertaining. I cannot begin to explain how much I love what I do and I can't imagine doing anything outside of the industry. I get so excited to go in, do a good job and see how I can improve myself every.single.day!
The fact that it puts me in the public is rather overwhelming for me and I don't really understand it. My man once summed it up beautifully: "This is not Hollywood. We don't have celebrities, but we do have public profiles whether you/we like it or not."

A role model? No pressure. Don't you think a role model would be someone healthy, who has goals and is hard working and ambitious? I don't quite understand...are you saying that I'm not a role model because I'm not stick thin? Well in that case. Thank God!
If you're going to use loaded words like "Role Model", well then, I'd rather be a role model for young women who want to make something of themselves regardless of how they look. I'd like young women to look at me and think: I, too can do it! I too, can dream and have those dreams come true and I don't have to look a certain way!

It is devastating to me because I have put on several kgs and I can't quite seem to fit into clothes I used to. I'm a woman and I am personally very sensitive to this. Ask one woman if weight has ever been a hang up. 99% of women have hang ups about their weight, even Heidi Klum.
Has it hurt my self esteem? Yes. Not drastically but I. am. human. Trust me, I'd love to be the size I was and I'm working at it. Weight gain is quick...weight loss takes effort and it takes time if you want it to be healthy and stay off.
It's not great hanging around skinny girls at these functions feeling like a frump, but I'll never let my weight define who I am as a person.

I am irritated that I have never had to watch what I eat...perhaps to my detriment later on in life considering I have been diagnosed with this condition; and now I am having to. I am not used to having to make a concerted effort watching what I put in my mouth and it has been a bit of a shock. I struggle with it and it is a constant battle considering that I could be the President of the Sweet Tooth Society. No more sweets, chocolate, sugar, bread and so on...

Am I making an effort though? Hell yes! I want to be healthy and I want to do my best to prevent diabetes.
I am working my ass off in gym (boxing) and I am starting pilates/yoga.

I don't need to explain myself (after all of this) but I have had it. I'm tired of being called a Blob by tabloids. Fuck off. I am a person who has feelings.
Quite frankly this email has been the most judgemental, uneducated email I have probably ever received. It hurt me to the core.
I didn't respond. In these cases: "The best response is no response" - more advice from my man

This is a stupid post but it has made me feel better. I'll probably delete it tomorrow afternoon.

Oh and I've lost 4kgs so far, so bite me!

Antiques and Fan Mail

I've had a lovely and interesting day. When was the last time you walked through the Old Melville?
I felt like I was in another country. There are so many quaint stores, coffee shops and restaurants with unique things from beads, to second hand book stores and vintage stores. It was such a lovely different day to go through all the antiques and clothes! The clothes weren't as cute as I had hoped, but wow there were some real amazing pieces of furniture and an old suit case/trunk that was spectacular. It was so old and rich in history. If only it could talk. I could have a fabulous conversation finding out about all it's travels.
It was a shocking R250. I was expecting another zero at the end for it's size and it's age, but R250 it was. I wanted to take it home with me, but it's being loaned out for a movie!
I'll have to go back and get it! I don't know what I'll do with it considering I have a modern home and these pieces (as lovely as they are) would just not go. Pity.

So, I've been doing well with my boxing and I've actually been eating properly. Amazing. No really. For me, this is something to go into the Blogshell Record book.
I am feeling lighter and I am feeling really good.
Just saying.

Oh and I thought I would share something with you. This is one of the emails I get on a daily basis. It used to be sweet that they had taken the time out to mail me, but now it is just becoming creepy. I've swopped my name for Blondie.

Blondie, I may av not yet got an opport 2even spend a few hrs g8in 2kno a star lyk u beta.
BUT U URSELF SED IT IS 'WHO U R' IN YR WEBSITE. My philos mayb diffe bt wot i do kno is dt Blondie is a clean hearted, hold no grudge stunnin pers.

I was alwys tawt not 2judge ppl cos of thr luks but judge a pers by ho dey r-&not wat dey r-i neva gt it til i realizd my duties 2fulfil my own.
Ur d absolute-&alwys wil rem d absolute.&der is alwys a reason y we in each others lives.. Nt 2Q-cos i kno its2learn somethin 4rm each otha:)

OK...so this is what I get...if you can decode that for me, I'd appreciate it.