Wednesday, July 23, 2008


I have no idea why this has affected me so much but it just has. I shouldn't care, but *sigh*

When I was at university I shared classes with two girls that I became quite friendly with. We were as thick as thieves and unfortunately due to different lifestyles etc...we haven't been able to see each other as often as we'd like. Hooray for Facebook.
I remember sitting around having conversations about where our lives were going, what we thought lay ahead and who out of the 3 of us would get married and have little sprogs first.
We were in no way ready for that, but being girly girls, it was fun to sit around and daydream, wishing we could find that magic crystal ball.

We all thought that friend 1 would marry first, friend 2 would marry second and that I'd probably be last. That pissed me off a little, but whatever.

They were right. Friend 1 got married first, friend 2 got married second and NOW, I have just found out that they are both pregnant. I am so excited for both of them -this is such an incredible journey.
The worst? Getting it rubbed in my face and then being asked: "So... when are you going to get married?" and "We were right! You are the last to get married!"

It's not what I be pregnant now, etc... but it's made me feel really shit. I feel bad, because I'm really pleased for them, don't get me wrong...
I don't know why this has affected me, I can't explain it, I guess my sensitivity hasn't changed! I'll get over it.

In other news, I cannot fucking walk. I look like a moron hobbling around. I cannot lower myself onto the toilet without holding onto the walls. I cannot handle the stairs that are around; there are shit loads.
I went to a boxing class this morning and guess what we were supposed to train? Legs. Fuck.
I couldn't, not from going to gym yesterday. I tried to do as much as I could before my legs let me know they were officially on strike.
We eventually hit the punching bags and did the "Magic 50".
We hit the bag once, then 1,2...then, 1,2,3 ...all the way up to 50.
We worked out that we hit the bag 1275 times. I can feel it...oooh, can I feel it! Typing this post is painful.



The Divine Miss M said...

Hon it's ok. I'm 25 and barely able to keep down a boyfriend half of the time.

Just remember that you have an amazing life and aren't tied down with the whole baby thing yet and that they might POSSIBLE be jealous of you - making you feel small re the whole marriage thing is a defence mechanism.

Anyways screw them - who'd want to be our age and having a baby anyways? And who needs friends who make you feel bad about where you are in your life!

The Blonde Blogshell said...

Yay Miss M! You not only keep me on my toes but you keep my spirits lifted too!

You're the best!

Anonymous said...

Dude you're toooo young to be worrying about whether you're married, besides you're in a serious relationship so be happy! and it doesn't matter when you get married, it matters who lands up with the best guy. I'm 28 and I don't even ever go on dates, haven't kissed a guy in almost a year, lol so relax now.


Anonymous said...

oh and I meant to ask, are you an aquarius? am i right?

Peas on Toast said...


There was a time - when I was with a dude for 6 years - that everyone decided to name me the girl 'who'd get married first.' Now I'm the girl that 'will probably never get married.' And you know what? Both of those statements piss me off. Why does everyone feel that there needs to be this nuptial race? Fuck it drives me up the tree.
Like, are we even competing in this race?

So you know what Blogshell - and I can completely understand and hear where you're coming from - and if you really want to throw a spanner in their works, you could always come back with a 'I wonder out of us three who'll get divorced first? Looks like it won't be me.'

Blue Sunflower said...

Hi blogshell

I know exactly what you mean. Funny enough my group of friends and I during varsity used to do the same thing. I was always seen as getting married second. It didnt pan out that way as I am the last one out of the 4 of us to get married.

I remember last year when friend no 3 got married and we were all at her wedding I kept getting asked my practically everyone that was there the same question. At that time in my life I was going through such a crap time that I honestly thought I would never get married.

People can be so insensitve at times. Dont take them serious. You have a great guy and a solid relationship and who cares when you decide to get married.

Just a little thought - By the time you get married and will be entering a new and exciting time in your life they will be tired and hagged and full of complaints....

I agree with Peas - People and their perceptions about this huge race to get married is a thought that generally annoys me. This is the 21st century for crying out loud....

boldly benny said...

What a strange idea to predict or question when a person should get married! Personally, the idea of getting married terrifieds me!

There's no timeline on these things. You have PLENTY of time to get married and have kids. My sister had her first kid at 33, my mom had me at 39 - PLENTY of time to do it AND to do it when it's right. In the meantime, enjoy being free of baby responsibilities.

And if all else fails, I'd do as Peas suggests and start posing the question: I wonder who'll be first to get divorced out of the three us? Ha ha!

Being Brazen said...

I feel your annoyance...I am having the same type of things happening to me right. Everyone seems to be getting married or strating a family. Grrrrrrr..I dont want kiddies now, but i wouldnt mind a pretty rock on my hand....

Being Brazen said...

But having said that I wouldnt want to rusg getting married, after all - its for i guess better to go at whatever pace you want and forget about what everyone else does ;-)

KaB said...

Marriage...bleh...that's what insecure fools who need a piece of paper & a ring to make them feel like the world is okay!

Enjoy yourself...cos one day you'll be one of them!

As for gym...I'm painfully jealous...I need to desperately sort myself out...and fast!

The Blonde Blogshell said...

Hey Anon, thanks for stopping by!

You're completely right and I do know this...I am more than happy with my life...I just have no idea why it affected me...silly!

The Blonde Blogshell said...

Exactly Peas! Too true matey!
I mean seriously... do we have to be boxed in?
I love it...I am going to start that...whose going to get divorced first? Oh wait. I can't! Hahaha!
Thanks x